Dealing with trans-sexualism

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

So...as some of you know, I've recently taken steps to become a girl named "Emily". Problem is...everything I've done is online...my family refuses to let me do anything off of the internet. I guess the question now is, though, do I listen to my parents and not do anything, but continue to be depressed because of the fact that I know I'm a girl, but my parents won't let me be one, or should I just go for it and piss my parents off? I really don't know what to do...but the longer I'm stuck as a guy, the more depressed I seem to get...I know I'm a girl...but they refuse to believe it...I'm waiting for my sister's kid to be born, because I think it might end up as a hephrodite (or whatever it's called), you know...one of those kids born with both sexes? They keep saying it's an "odd-looking boy, but also an odd-looking girl." If it is, then I'll have something to prove my point at least.

[Arkbennett 16]

So, your a boy, but you feel like your a girl?

Well, be yourself, that's what I always say.

 

Do what you believe is right, that's the right decision.

 

So, if you wanna be a girl physically, go for it.

[Wyzrd 12]

Same as Ark said. Do what your heart tells you to do.

[Marked 197]

Well, be yourself, that's what I always say.

 

Do what you believe is right, that's the right decision.

 

So, if you wanna be a girl physically, go for it.

Yeah. At the end of the day its your life, and you are an adult. It is a little more difficult living under your parents roof though. It may be easier to move out, that way you can do what ever you want. Although moving out makes things a hell of a lot more difficult. But at least then you can do anything you want, and there's no parents controlling your life. Also, I hope your sisters baby is born healthy. If it is born like that, its not a good thing. Its certainty not something to hope for. I know that is not what you meant though.

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

Yeah, that's some helpful advice at least -nods- Truthfully...it's hard being a guy...since I know I'm supposed to be a girl, it makes it hard to continue life in my current state. So, I' trying to push to get out of the house...but currently to no avail...I doubt anything will happen until I finish my eye treatments...and if my eyes keep getting better at the rate they are getting better...that'll be never...honestly, I started at 20/200 over half a year ago, and in a month's time I hit 20/50+...and my eyes haven't progressed at all in 5 months...and I've worked even harder at doing my eye stuff (except for the last month)

[satan6676 0]

Like the other said be you. If your parent's don't like it then too bad for them.

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

Actually, I thought of something today it was SO awesome when I thought it up! I was talking to myself, and I had the following conversation with myself: (open spoiler to see it)

 

Conversations

Me as myself: Trans-sexuality is usually a birth defect of some kind. It isn't always, but in my case it is. It can't be a sin to fix it.

Me as my parents: It is sinful to try and become something God didn't make you to be. You are always born the way you are supposed to be.

Me as myself: So then, by your logic, it is sinful to have fixed my brother's birth defect. After all, he was born with a cleft palet. By your logic, God meant for him to have a cleft palet, so you fixing that is sinful, yet you've never apologized for it. On top of that, what about the kids known as "Hephrodites" that are born with both sexes? Did God decide one day "Oh, this kid will be both a boy and a girl"? What about those who are born with neither gender? If you fix either of those, as I imagine you would, after all, it's a terrible birth defect, then you're sinning! And what about those twins who are born with their heads fused together at the top? Surely God didn't want such a terrible thing to happen! If he did, then you better go tell all those parents who have had that happen to ask forgiveness, because that was sinful of them to change that.

 

And if none of that is sinful, as I suspect it isn't, then there is absolutely nothing sinful with fixing my own birth defect. But, by your logic, if it is sinful for me to fix my birth defect, it is sinful for us to have fixed Kenneth's. It would then also be sinful for anyone to fix any birth defect at all, no matter how bad or life threatening, because obviously, according to you, we are born EXACTLY the way God wants us to be born. So you can go tell the little 7 year old boy in the news (there isn't one, but I've heard of one before) that it is sinful for him to have heart surgery so he can live, since he was, after all, born with a bad heart, and God made him that way.

 

I'd also like to add another thing. You said you've tried and confessed for 6 years that I would be a boy named Michael. According to pastor, confessing can change anything, that's what the Bible says. The Bible says "God gave us power just below angels" which, according to pastor, is incorrectly translated, and it should say "God gave us power just below himself". Which means our words can change anything. If you confessed for 6 years that I would be a boy, then you could have messed something up. Our confessions can either let God do what he wants, or let the Devil step in and twist what we get. How do you define a proper "bad Confession"? In my eyes, anything that isn't guaranteed to be in line with God's plans is a bad confession. From what I've heard, your confession wasn't in line with God's plans, meaning the Devil stepped in and twisted things around. Because of that, I was born as a boy, but I was supposed to be a girl, and it is all because of your bad confession in what you wanted. Without even realizing it, you allowed the Devil to step in and completely mess up my life before I was even born.

 

On top of all of this, though, I want to know, what verse in scripture EXACTLY states "It is sinful to think thou art the opposite sex" because surely I don't know of one. I've seen verses, like the one in James that says "Let yourself not be deceived" but how do I know I am being deceived? I have no biblical verse to tell me I am. And then there is Deuteronomy 22:5 that says "For a man to wear a girls clothes, or vise versa, it is an abomination unto the Lord!" That just tells me I need to go change my clothes, because if I'm a girl, then I'm an abomination unto the Lord right now, because I'm wearing male clothes! So, tell me, I want to know, what Scripture of the Bible states EXACTLY that Trans-sexualism is false? If there is none, then I don't need Scripture to back up my belief it is true, because the Bible never states it is false.

 

This rambling of sorts went on for another 30 minutes...but that was the most important, and greatest revelation part I had...Now if only I had the guts to say it to my parents...Honestly, when I said it to myself I went "Ouch...I don't mean to hurt my parents, but that burns REALLY badly." I then proceeded to say this to my one Christian friend at work, and he said "EXACTLY, God, your parents are total and complete idiots!"

[Arkbennett 16]

lol, you would nail them if you told them that.

But then again, they'd say it's different.

You'd say how?

And then they'd give you some lame excuse. Probably.

Huh?

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

Of course they would. They're stupid like that...but, if they said "That's different" I'd say "Then a rapist being okay to try raping people for 3 months isn't the same as me going through therapy for 3 months to see if it is nice."

[Wyzrd 12]

Thats cool, just do what you have to do. And if it hurts them, then good maybe they will finally understand. I don't mean to sound like a ass but when it comes to me I say what is on my mind.

 

And as far as the bible stuff I have no clue what you are talking about because I'm not a religious person but I was able to understand the part about your brother and stuff lol.

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

Want to know something interesting? The last couple of days I've been doing studying of the Bible...mainly searching for things with online Bibles...but when I do, they are all things I can trust. The funny thing is...I've actually found verses that can be used to support Trans-sexuality, while finding none that can be used against it...if Trans-sexuality was a problem, why didn't Jesus talk about it? I seem to remember (don't quote me on this, though) him saying something about being gay was wrong...but he didn't say anything about Trans-sexuality...and they were dealing with it back then, too! So -shrugs- just a side thought is all ^^

[BiddyPocket 0]

I seem to remember (don't quote me on this, though) him saying something about being gay was wrong...but he didn't say anything about Trans-sexuality...and they were dealing with it back then, too! So -shrugs- just a side thought is all ^^

 

I'm curoius to know to what extent, though. The bible says a lot of things that aren't necessarily true these days, or at least that the Christian majority tends to ignore. But I don't think transexuality was as present then as it is today. Before Christ, possibly, such as in Ancient Greece. What source indicates that individuals were dealing with transexuality in those times?

 

Anyway, in regard to dealing with being transexual, it's a very difficult thing. I'm an RA (resident assistant) at my college and we had a transgender student. An incident occured where his psychologist was concerned for his safety so campus police came and, not knowing he was transgender, referred to him as a female, which made him very upset. Apparently it was hard for him to get the legal name changes and other formalities that would have altered campus police of the change.

 

Knowing a few transexuals I can say that it isn't an easy life - transexuals are actually the targets of more hate crimes then every other minority (sexuality, race, religion, etc.) COMBINED. That's pretty intense (true for the US, at least). But I say go for it! There are so many people out there who don't understand, and it's so frustrating. I've just heard from friends that it's an expensive decision. But don't let the ignorant few hold you back! LOGO, the LGBT cable channel, has a show called "Trans-Generation" - it's very interesting/informative!

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

So...something odd happened to me today...something that really helped "renew" my trans-sexualism you could say...I've been dealing with it for a while...but the hurt has died down due to not being under my parent's roof right now...though still in a position where I am unable to change...This situation, though, basically made me hurt a lot after it was over, but it felt REALLY good at the time.

 

I was at work today, and I ended up working drive-thru. Well...it started out okay...but as it went on, these guys kept coming through drive-thru...it was always different guys...but all of them were cute...I kept staring at them and swooning and everything...I was acting like a girl...then this one guy came through drive thru, and I handed him his money. I turned and looked at the back seat, and there was this REALLY cute guy. If it had been a cartoon, you probably would have seen hearts in my eyes and all that other stuff cartoons do. I blushed, waved, and stared at him. He smiled and waved back, and then they drove on.

 

After that, I was acting even MORE like a girl...and by the end of my 8 hour shift, I had felt more like a girl then EVER in my whole life. I was about to leave when the night shift manager came in...and at that moment...I pretty much broke up...the night shift manager was SO CUTE! OMG! I couldn't take it...I wanted to run up to him and snuggle him and everything...I've never looked at guys this way before. This confirms without a doubt that I like guys...and my actions confirm how much of a girl I really am...now if only others could see that...

[isaacsol 10]

I believe that you should follow what your heart tells you, and if God didn't want us to be able to have operations to change sex, then he would not have given us the ability to do that. If your parents talk to you about defying God, just tell them that the whole modern world, including science and medicine defy God.

 

Oh, and by the way, a person born as both sexes is call a Hermaphrodite, it derives from the Greek gods, Hermes and Aphrodite.

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

Yeah, I know...I'm not sure where you read otherwise about the hermaphrodite thing...but I've learned that already ^^

[BiddyPocket 0]

I believe that you should follow what your heart tells you, and if God didn't want us to be able to have operations to change sex, then he would not have given us the ability to do that. If your parents talk to you about defying God, just tell them that the whole modern world, including science and medicine defy God.

 

Oh, and by the way, a person born as both sexes is call a Hermaphrodite, it derives from the Greek gods, Hermes and Aphrodite.

 

Believe it or not, "hermaphrodite" is actually considered by some to be a derogatory term. I don't know if its true for the population as a whole, but I know some do not like to be referred to it.

[isaacsol 10]

Well. I hope no one took that offensively, but personally, if I was one, I'd rather be called a Hermaphrodite then anything else.

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

-sighs- being around my parents always makes me depressed now...I hate it...they don't like that I'm trans-sexual, and they tell me it's wrong...I'm pretty sure that's why I'm depressed around them...either way, all I know is, seeing them makes me sad, because I know they'll never accept me

[BiddyPocket 0]

:(.

 

*hug*

 

don't worry Emily, you just have to have hope that one day they will understand.