Sexual Orientation Truths?

[Unka Josh 0]

Emily, you know who you are. Go you! You are officially ahead of a lot of people in life.

[badjedidude 0]

Ok, let's throw political correctness out the window for a sec.

 

Here's my problem with the whole transgender/transsexual thing (and I know you're gonna cringe, but hear me out.):

 

I can't help but view transexuals and transgender people as sort of fake, as facades (though this may be too strong a term for it). No matter what you "feel" like you are, no matter what your mental opinion of yourself is, you are still biologically the gender that you were born with. You can claim all you want that you "are" a girl and you can even get some patched-together girl genitalia, but your DNA is always going to say "BOY". Whatever side of the debate you are on, this is something that you can't refute, and for good or for ill, it's a huge part of the issue and society will always have a problem with understanding or accepting it.

 

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not condemning transexuality or something...I'm just saying that until humanity has the technology to change one's gender at DNA BASE LEVEL, there's always going to be a gap between what one thinks or feels that they are and what biology says that they are...and furthermore it will always be a touchy issue for society (ie, the square community) in general, unless the entire society undergoes some fairly big changes...and right now I don't think there are enough people to change things. In the future? Possibly.

 

As a hasty close to my ramble, let me say this: I understand how hard it can be for transexuals and transgender people these days...it can be like being stuck between a rock and a hard place, not always entirely sure if you ARE boy or girl, whether to follow one's psychology or biology...even those who do "choose" a path to tread face ridicule and rejection for what they are. With that said, I applaud those strong enough to stand and face difficulties with dignity. As an example: I have no clue who Emily is (I'm a NOOOOOB here) but it sounds like Emily has reached a stable, comfortable place in her life and that's ALWAYS a good thing, no matter who the person is.

 

Well, that's my thinking on the subject. Don't hurt me.

[aya_miyaca 0]

@badjedidude well i will not post a long negative comment about your post since its your opinion, but one thing i have to say i i disagree. transgender/transsexual people are not fake, they are more real than any straight people out there because they believe in themselves and are happy in what they are and what they do.

 

@Emily, i like what you did. posting what you feel here knowing many people will judge who you are. i believe you are a girl just stuck in a guys body. (i get that alot, i have many friends like you) nothing will really change since many of us here in the forum will treat you as you are, i will too since were both girls :). you just go and believe in what you believe.

[EmilyAnnCoons 7]

@badjedidude: On a DNA level, yeah, you're right, I am male. That's why I state I'm in a male body. I can change it to look more female, but I'll still be in a male body, but it will make it so that I at least look female, and thus, people in the world will treat me as such. However, I am not fake. I am a girl because my brain, which is what actually makes you who you are, is female. But...I'm not gonna go into a big anti-post for what you've said...I really don't want to deal with that.

 

@aya (and the others who have said they accept me since I last posted in here): Thanks, you're all great people, and I'm glad there's someone out there who views me as me. ^^

[formlesstree4 18]

I always thought you were female anyway.....meh, doesn't matter to me anyway.

[badjedidude 0]

@badjedidude: On a DNA level, yeah, you're right, I am male. That's why I state I'm in a male body. I can change it to look more female, but I'll still be in a male body, but it will make it so that I at least look female, and thus, people in the world will treat me as such. However, I am not fake. I am a girl because my brain, which is what actually makes you who you are, is female. But...I'm not gonna go into a big anti-post for what you've said...I really don't want to deal with that.

 

@aya (and the others who have said they accept me since I last posted in here): Thanks, you're all great people, and I'm glad there's someone out there who views me as me. ^^

 

Like I said, "Fake" wasn't quite the word I wanted, but I couldn't think of a better one. I was just commenting that I think sex/gender is biologically determined, not psychologically. One's psychological make-up is tied very closely to one's actual physical make-up...even at a base physical level, men and women's brains are chemically and phsyically structured differently and operate along radically different trains of logic...I just think that even if you truly believe that you're a girl, you arrived at that mindset following logic and reactions stemming from a physically male brain...*shrug* I just can't help but see that as being MALE..

 

..But hey, I don't have all the answers; who does? We all sort of make life up as we go along, don't we? I'm willing to listen and hear what everyone has to say about things. Just my opinion, that's all.

 

AYA: I simply can't agree that transgender people are "more real" than straight people. That's sort of a divisive thing to say. I think that every different culture, group, or social subset have both "real" and "fake" people in them. Being transgender (or straight) doesn't make one better or more "real" than straight (or transgender) people. It's about personality, that's all. Maybe you're just hanging around the wrong straighties. Also....just to clarify: Like I mentioned in my original post, "fake" is too strong a word for what I meant, and I probably shouldn't have used it.

 

Well, I'm blabbing on again. I'll shush now.

[Unka Josh 0]

From the folks that I've talked to who are in Emily's shoes-- such as wicked-cool anime director Jan Scott-Frazier-- I'm inclined to believe how these folks describe it. I mean, there's too much consistency.

 

Besides, why not accept things? There's too much chaos and destruction in the world to worry about the little things. Why sweat the small stuff?

 

Emily, if you say you're female, you're female. See? Simple.

[badjedidude 0]

lol I can disagree and not espouse chaos and destruction, ya know. I'm not holding any torches or pitchforks here..just sharing my honest opinion.

 

I'm not gonna try and stop Emily from being or doing whoever or whatever she wants to just because I disagree with it...unless it somehow directly, physically threatens my well-being...lol and that seems to be a fairly remote concern here.

 

Just givin' my humble opinion..and hey, it livens up the conversation.