The point of dating.

[rgangsta 43]

What's the point of dating? I've been wanting to ask a girl out and I kept thinking that if I did, what would be the point? I love women as much as the next guy but why do we really get ourselves into relatioships?

 

I asked my brother a while ago if he wanted to marry his girlfriend. He told me not to ask him a question like that because he's too young to be thinking about marriage. So if you don't plan on spending your life with someone, what is the point of being in a relatioship with them? Then what are teenagers doing going out with each other? I doubt they want to get married too.

But here comes another question: If you don't plan on marrying the person, why does someone get hurt when they get dumped or the relationship ends? If you didn't plan on continuing it forever, there should be no reason to be sad. Why would people put themselves into a situation where they get hurt like that knowing that the relationship will end sooner or later? Are they dating for the sex? But don't people hate being used for sex? If that's the case, then why don't they start the pick up lines like "We're going to have sex for a month and then breakup".

I spoke to friend of mine 2 days ago and he explained to me about a relatioship he had a few years back. He would only have sex with her evey time they met. When they finally borke up, she got mad and the break up was very messy. What did she think was going to happen since they have sex all the time?

 

Thinking of this made me think of another question mainly aimed at women.

Why do women date men that they know will break their hearts? They know what type of person the guy is yet they still date only those types of men.

One perfect example is of a friend of mine who liked this girl for 4 years now. He treats her like a queen, buys her jelwery, paid for her school uniform, protects her from anything that is bad in the world and is always there when she's feeling hurt but she never wants to date him at all. Instead, she dated some loser who cheated on her twice. When she broke up with that guy, she went out with the same type of guy which cheated on her again. Now, her last boyfriend insulted her and cheated on her with her knowing. But she still likes the her boyfriend.

So, here's another question for the ladies. I don't mean to be disrespectful but do you like being treated like crap? Guys like that do things to hurt you while there are perfect guys out there and you don't even want to date the good guys.

Some women have said that the reason they don't date the "good guys" is because they're ugly. But how come when I told a girl's friend that she was ugly, she got her friends to gang up on me and told me I was shallow?

 

I want you guys to come up with some explinations for this problem of mine. If you come up with a good cause for dating, I will ask the girl out. If not, then I won't ask her out.

Edited September 10, 2010 by rgangsta

[Ecowolfsteen 14]

I'm not really sure...I have a friend that I want to ask out but she...Idk...I can't tell if she likes me or not. One day shes all happy and the next shes completely negative towards me.

We've been good friends for 3 years. Which in those 3 years, I have had a huge crush on her.

I do everything for her. I wish I could give the world to her. But, the thing is...There's a winter dance coming up, and she keeps asking me who I want to take. I think she wants to go with me. Lately shes been cuddling up to me because her last boyfriend was a jerk and broke up with her. Tomorrow I think I might ask her to the dance as friends. She doesn't have anybody to go with either. Well, we'll see. Good luck RG.

[Chief 30]

First point: Dating should be reserved for when you are able to support yourself in a marriage. Now, many people date in Highschool, and yeah, I was one. Guilty. Do I regret it? No, but was I ready? Heck no. I should have waited until i was older. Not that its a big deal though, Never had sex with her. I agree with you that its pointless to date when you know the relationship will end. Thats why I am now waiting (as hard as it is, lol).

 

Second point: Nobody should be having sex while just dating. it will turn you into an emotional wreck, regardless of it showing or not. The repercussions are just too terrible to want to do it again. Waiting until Marriage, and then not divorcing, is the best way to do things. One might say, what about an abusive marriage? Well, why the hell would you marry that person in the first place? you're supposed to REALLY get to know them before the vows, not after.

 

Third point: Women tend to go for the jerks, because they feel that its what they deserve. They can be very self conscious because Hollywood and the bastard media tend to give them horrid ideas of how they're supposed to be. It makes me want to burn California to an ash. If the women arent as skinny as photoshopped cover girls, than they think they're fat and worthless? ... This then leads to them wanting to be treated that way...

 

This was all my opinion, nothing is rock hard fact, but some is supported by psychological studies.

[Marked 197]

Dating should be reserved for when you are able to support yourself in a marriage. Now, many people date in Highschool, and yeah, I was one. Guilty. Do I regret it? No, but was I ready? Heck no

 

This is a bit of a cultural question, isn't it? I disagree with this quote because I think dating should be about having fun rather than seeking a life partner.

 

I have a lot of opinions regarding the first post, particularly about girls dating douche bags and not liking nice guys, but no one reads long posts anyway say I'll stop here :)

[Chief 30]

Yeah, I said it was my opinion. there are a lot of different views on dating. Most consider it just a way to get experience in relationships so they can have a better one later on. I dunno, I like my opinion, lol, its why its mine.

[formlesstree4 18]

I date because I want to get to know someone on a deeper level then just friends permits in society (at least here). In dating, I suppose it's a way of finding out more about not only the one you are dating, but about yourself. I found out a lot about myself after dating two or three different girls. Did I think we were going to get married? No, and neither did she. Unrealistic goals that we knew from the start probably wouldn't happen weren't set, therefore when we did break up (due to compatibility issues, or the relationship ran its' course, etc), it wasn't nasty and we remained as friends, realizing that it wasn't meant to be for us.

 

That's my opinion. Dating is just a way for two people to eventually find the right person to be with....terrible summary of my post, but yeah.

[clone1018 4]

To have sex.

[Jesse66126 4]

To have sex.

 

Sex gets old after a while. A relationship can never last from just sex alone. Personal experience. Even if she's smoking hot and wants to have sex all the time,while that idea sounds like a guy's dream,if she's a dominating bitch,he'll tire of her after a day or two.

Sadly,people always tend go after looks.

 

One of my favorite You Tube quotes was,"men are stupid? Give me a break. Girls date assholes and then cry about the fact that they're assholes. Its not until you're dragged through the mud that you realize that the nice guy is the way to go, but of course you're damaged goods by then and only take out your fucked up mindsets on the good guy."

 

It's a time honored tradition that has been passed down from generation to generation. This applies to both girls and guys respectively.

Edited September 15, 2010 by Jesse66126

[clone1018 4]

Date.

Have Sex.

Child.

Give to girl.

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Date.

Have Sex.

Child.

Give to girl.

 

 

lol i jk

[rgangsta 43]

Chief and Formless made some good points. I liked that Formless said that relationships are good to find the right person to be with and gain some experience.

I never though of it that way.

[Kiriashi 117]

That is exactly what the point of dating is; looking for the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

 

Sometimes you'll find that person the first time, or maybe after dating 30 women. That's not to say it can't be fun, but dating isn't something that's just for entertainment. I agree with Chief that sex is not something that should occur in dating. You're looking for your soulmate; look for fun in videogames.

 

So you should ask her out if there are many things about her that you like. If she isn't who you thought she was, then move on.

[jporter917 0]

@Ecowolfsteen dude get the hint ;)

 

As for the first post, life sucks, girls and guys suck. You get hurt you don't get hurt, you live once you like someone try spending time with them don't worry about all the in between shit, if it doesn't work out take a breath and move on. The problem isn't people getting hurt it is people letting themselves feel hurt and feeling sorry for themselves cause they were dumped. It is a mental thing, people get with someone and except it to be like the movies, books, etc and when it doesn't they get "sad" as they like to call it, when really they just feel sorry for themselves cause their "dream" didn't live up. Dating is like wine tasting you don't sallow the wine. It is as simple as that the point is to find something you like, "your drink", one that you could "drink" for the rest of your life.

 

As far as dating in high school I did it, I was one of the foolish dumb stuck ones too, but I learned. However, lets get real for a second teenager will date, will have sex and will do whatever it is they feel like doing period. So on that note they should simply add a class that freshmen or even 6th graders must take about dating, oh wait they had that sex ed. however thanks to parents and politicians a lot of schools don't have sex ed anymore. I can speak for myself had sex when I was 15 didn't effect me a bit or the girl, we still see each other and say hello.

 

It is the mind set of people that defines how they will act and react in the dating trend, that is why you taste the wine don't sallow it.

 

btw, woman are dumb they will date the most nastiest, meanest, fucked up guys there are plain and simple. But in the end do you really know those guys you think are bad? I mean the cheaters yea and beaters yea, but I've seen my dad yell at me mom, seen her yell at my dad in public, it was stupid. But they aren't bad people at all been together for 30 years. Who is to say an on looker wouldn't say my dad was being abusive? My point is if a girl is with someone, find someone else to chase don't try to be the stereo typical "hero/good guy/knight is armor"

 

 

<<Two cents entered>>

Edited September 15, 2010 by jporter917

[rgangsta 43]

Jporter...you are right. I like his answer most of all. It's getting me to rethink the whole dating scene.

[Leon 55]

In my opinion, the reason for dating is more or less a courtship thing, to see if you can match in compatibility. Granted, this doesn't always work out, as people are constantly changing. Dating is in place just to see if you can get along with the person, but even dating alone isn't enough to test it.

 

In my experience, you cannot really know if you are compatible with someone until you are living with them, spending 95% of the time with them, and have enough in common to keep things interesting.

 

Now, a couple things I don't understand include: Why don't guys pay attention to a girl's needs? Why do guys find girls 'complex'? Why do girls try to change guys?

 

I mean, honestly, both guys and girls are simple. Humans are creatures of habit, so why try to change someone? They may turn into someone you didn't start dating in the first place. And as for paying attention, well, all a girl wants is someone to talk to and listen to them.

 

 

All and all, dating is just a way of checking compatibility, as stated in the beginning. Now, why people date 'casually' beats me. Probably them being insecure and just looking for some companionship. Either that or they want someone to f***. My own personal opinion, dating should just be if you are really looking for that one. It shouldn't be some 'pass time'.

[jporter917 0]

In my opinion, the reason for dating is more or less a courtship thing, to see if you can match in compatibility. Granted, this doesn't always work out, as people are constantly changing. Dating is in place just to see if you can get along with the person, but even dating alone isn't enough to test it.

 

Wine testing to see if we like a wine before we waste money and time buying one we may or may not like. Starting to see how it works now rgangsta, Leon knows.

 

In my experience, you cannot really know if you are compatible with someone until you are living with them, spending 95% of the time with them, and have enough in common to keep things interesting.

 

So very true!

 

Now, a couple things I don't understand include: Why don't guys pay attention to a girl's needs? Why do guys find girls 'complex'? Why do girls try to change guys?

 

Human nature to care about yourself more than others (Survival and protection instinct)

Girls aren't complex that is just an excuse guys use for not listening

Girls want to be with a prefect man, doesn't exist.

 

I mean, honestly, both guys and girls are simple. Humans are creatures of habit, so why try to change someone? They may turn into someone you didn't start dating in the first place. And as for paying attention, well, all a girl wants is someone to talk to and listen to them.

 

Humans are humans like any other animal they trend to Custer together, pare up and mate, love and emotions are what we add. Other animal don't do those thing at least not our complexly. Girls want what guys what, talk, listen, sex, security and stability. That equals out to; love, money and sex.

 

 

All and all, dating is just a way of checking compatibility, as stated in the beginning. Now, why people date 'casually' beats me. Probably them being insecure and just looking for some companionship. Either that or they want someone to f***. My own personal opinion, dating should just be if you are really looking for that one. It shouldn't be some 'pass time'.

 

People date casually for one reason; For sex and cause they know they have 60+ years to find "the one". At least that would be the only logical reason, but if you would like we can drive into the mental side of relationship and open up a whole new, large, can of crazy bullshit. But anyone out there that is looking for a "serious relationship" is just someone who feels they are ready to find the one. That person could be 16 or that person could be 60, but either way doesn't mean they know what they are doing or looking for.

 

 

Profoundness from the google: Relationships quotes

Edited September 15, 2010 by jporter917