ADVICE about Love!

[QuesTMajoR 4]

I need an advise.

   I loved a girl since last year, I found out that she also loves me after a couple of months. Since our classhome teacher wants "NO LOVE POLICY", we decided to be with each other after this schoolyear. We really have time with each other on texts or online. But when I joined a school organization. My time was eaten and I got busy on school projects, meetings and duties. 1 Night before the Junior's And Senior's Promenade, she told me that I got no time for the two of us, and I got busy on these past days, and she said that she feels only friendship for me. I cried, and became depressed on JS Prom, I threw my cellphone away resulting to make it broken. One Night, we had an open forum with our friends including her. Then I knew that she always loved me and misses me, she was like 50%-50% when I asked her if I have a chance to be her boyfriend. And after a 20 Seconds delay... she said, NO. :cry: 

   She wants me to change myself from what she have known me. 

So I need an Advice, What can I do to make her love me again?
                ||              , Does changing myself from the real me make her love me again?

I NEED A SERIOUS ANSWER. NO FLAMING ! NO SPAMMING ! NO JOKING!

[Leon 55]

She probably feels neglected, like she isn't the most important thing in your life. You should go to her, tell you how you really feel, face to face, and a pretty flower never hurts.

[QuesTMajoR 4]

She probably feels neglected, like she isn't the most important thing in your life. You should go to her, tell you how you really feel, face to face, and a pretty flower never hurts.

:ehh: Thanks for the Advice. 

 Does changing myself from the real me make her love me again? Does changing myself from the real me make her love me again?

[diagostimo 11]

if you think she is the one go for it, as you get older you will regret not taking the chance, even if in the long run or the short it fails, at least you gave it your best, and you can never regret that, I have to say though, when people say change, change can be a big thing, and turn us in to something that we are not, I can only say give her 100% of you, if she loves you for being you then that's enough, no one can ever love you and request for you to be someone different.

[dolarmak 23]

Oh youth,

how our hearts were such fragile things,

like fluff on dandelion wings.

 

 

If you care for her, just do it. Go over and tell her how you feel like Diagostimo said. At worst you'll find out she doesn't care about you the same way, at best you can date. You'll probably regret not trying.

Also never change for some one else, cause it'll never work. You'll change for a little while but then fall back into your old ways. Since it's mostly about spending time together I'd say just take a little more time to talk to her during the day, but if your school activity is important and you like it, maybe she could try it? is it possible for her to join what club you're in and spend time with you there?

Edited March 1, 2013 by dolarmak

[Marked 197]

Yeah don't go and change yourself, these girls come and go. You did neglect her a bit. You probably shoulda found the time.

 

Here's what I would do. Don't give up just yet. Be yourself and be available and show her you will be there this time, if its still no, you gotta suck it up and move on. I chased an ex once and I really needed that advice. If the answer is still no then that's it. Maybe there's a chance after that, there probably isn't, just be depressed for a while and get over it.

 

But the sooner you get on that train to getting over it the sooner it will end. You may be faced with the option of being depressed for a certain amount of time, being depressed for a certain amount of plus the time wasted chasing her, and no option of getting back together. You gotta take the first option. But you won't, coz ppl in your situation are irrational :P

[QuesTMajoR 4]

Oh youth,

how our hearts were such fragile things,

like fluff on dandelion wings.

 

 

If you care for her, just do it. Go over and tell her how you feel like Diagostimo said. At worst you'll find out she doesn't care about you the same way, at best you can date. You'll probably regret not trying.

Also never change for some one else, cause it'll never work. You'll change for a little while but then fall back into your old ways. Since it's mostly about spending time together I'd say just take a little more time to talk to her during the day, but if your school activity is important and you like it, maybe she could try it? is it possible for her to join what club you're in and spend time with you there?

~She doesnt like the Supreme Student Government in our school.

~But she wants me to change myself from the real "ME" that she known.

 

 

 

 

 

Yeah don't go and change yourself, these girls come and go. You did neglect her a bit. You probably shoulda found the time.

 

Here's what I would do. Don't give up just yet. Be yourself and be available and show her you will be there this time, if its still no, you gotta suck it up and move on. I chased an ex once and I really needed that advice. If the answer is still no then that's it. Maybe there's a chance after that, there probably isn't, just be depressed for a while and get over it.

 

But the sooner you get on that train to getting over it the sooner it will end. You may be faced with the option of being depressed for a certain amount of time, being depressed for a certain amount of plus the time wasted chasing her, and no option of getting back together. You gotta take the first option. But you won't, coz ppl in your situation are irrational  :P

~Okay, thanks for the advice! YOU GUYS HELPED ME A LOT ! I OWE YOU ALL!!!!!!

[Leon 55]

I agree, never change yourself. It isn't worth it... >.< Instead, be yourself, and if she is the right girl, it'll click. If not, then move on.