EmilyAnnCoons 7 Report post Posted September 15, 2009 Today has been the worst day for me in a long time. Normally, I'm not too depressed over being transsexual, I'm really usually not. However, today, it seemed like everything I did was girly. Screaming at bugs, the way I walked, the way I kept pushing my hair back, the way I was talking...it all just felt overly girly...I don't really know how else to explain it. All I could think about today was being female and remembering that I was only female in my mind and not in body. I'm lucky, though...I remembered I was still male in body. I once had a day much worse then today where I forgot I was male in body...I ended up looking over myself wondering why my body looked male...that was a bad day right there, but it didn't happen today. I keep wishing I could change this...but I can't...not as long as I live under my parent's house... My parents are major hypocritical Christians... I guess...the advice I'm seeking is...what should I do to get over it? I'm seriously at this point now where I feel I have 2 options: 1) blow up at my parents, tell them I'm a girl, that they can't change that, and tell them to f*** off. 2) Kill myself. In my opinion, number 2 isn't an option. So, I need a third option, or I need someone to tell me how I should go about option 1 without being mean...I really don't want to just go against my parents, but I think it may be the only option...to just do it and tell them that I don't care what they say, this is me and they won't change it. I'm also afraid of getting disowned, and my sister once said to a friend of hers (who is a friend of mine and thus told me what she said) "If he becomes a girl, the family won't let him be around much, if at all." So...what should I do? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FranklinX 37 Report post Posted September 15, 2009 You clearly have a problem being transsexual. Doctors are now recommending sex change surgeries. Transsexualism is a medical condition. Try to approach your family with medical research. If that does not work you just have to wait until you are out of your parents' house. Don't kill yourself. Your life has a special meaning to it just like everyone else. Don't let it go to waste. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Polraudio 122 Report post Posted September 15, 2009 Don't kill yourself. Your life has a special meaning to it just like everyone else. Don't let it go to waste. Please do not kill your self. I just had a Suicide Awareness class and it was disturbing to hear them stories. I don't want to hear one of a friend dying. I say your old enough to make your own decisions. Move out and be who you want to be. My step dad was a dick he told me im going to do this and you know what i said, i said "No its my life and i will do what i want to do with it so F*** Off!" So go out and be who you want to be and not what someone else wants you to be. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leon 55 Report post Posted September 15, 2009 Pulling a Kutner won't solve your problems. Do as Gris did with the tranny in his office, and use medical science, and biological science to explain your point. Hehehe... TV references... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tomo2000 60 Report post Posted September 15, 2009 Yeah, don't kill youself whatever you do. I already got a friend that may be considering it but whenever I see him and talk to him he calms down and actually thinks outside of the bubble of hate and anger he has created for himself. I think that he'll reconsider. In your case I think that you should tell you parents that they can't control who you are forever and that its your life and that you will live it how you want to. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nisage 31 Report post Posted September 15, 2009 Off topic for a bit..... Don't kill yourself. Your life has a special meaning to it just like everyone else. Don't let it go to waste. Anyway, basicly what everyone is saying. Tell them you're you and they can't change that, and move out if necessary. What's the worse they can do to you? (Whenever someone says that in a show, it get's much worse :P ) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kiriashi 117 Report post Posted September 16, 2009 Emmy, Suicide is out of the question. You wanna' know what will happen if you commit suicide? You will experience the same pain, a hundred times over, in hell. I guarantee it. As a catholic, in my point of view, someone that is swaying away from there born gender needs help. God new what he was doing when he made you. However there is no excuse for your parents to treat you like you describe. They should be supporting you through bad times; and good. And you should tell them that. Remember Emmy, that I'm here for you regardless of any other matters. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ratty524 0 Report post Posted September 18, 2009 Suicide will not solve anything, in fact it is pretty selfish. Even when times seem to get rough, there will always be people who care about you, and chosing to take away your life without thinking about others is simply hurtful. Follow what other people have said so far. Even if your parents are hypocritical Christians (ugh... >_<), don't be afraid to tell them how you feel, and present them with facts. As parents they should love you no matter who you are, and they should let you choose who you want to be. Not to mention if they are REAL Christians, they would let you go your way without trying to scare you into believing what they believe... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kiriashi 117 Report post Posted September 19, 2009 What branch of Christianity do you parents reside in? Catholic, protestant, what? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyAnnCoons 7 Report post Posted September 19, 2009 Umm... "Non Denominational"? That's all I know ^^" Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrimsonInferno 35 Report post Posted September 20, 2009 Don't kill yourself! Their are surgeries that can help, which ever gender you wish to be. Killing yourself would help nothing! Emmy, Suicide is out of the question. You wanna' know what will happen if you commit suicide? You will experience the same pain, a hundred times over, in hell. I guarantee it. Satan will make you relive that same pain and fear over and over and over again. You should consider surgery, if you want it I mean. Whatever you do, don't kill yourself! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyAnnCoons 7 Report post Posted September 20, 2009 See, the issue isn't what I want. It's that I'm afraid that my parents will disown me and kick me out onto the streets the second I try to do this. I want to change my outside sex to female, but to do that, I have to find a way around my parents. That's kinda what this topic is about...I think...I forgot what I put in the first post now >< Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ratty524 0 Report post Posted September 21, 2009 Hmm... How old are you? Perhaps you could persist. You could try to keep your intentions of changing into a girl as discrete as possible. Then, when you reach the right age at the right time, you can do it. It's just a suggestion, though. I'm not denying that your situation is pretty difficult. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyAnnCoons 7 Report post Posted September 21, 2009 I'm 21... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FranklinX 37 Report post Posted September 21, 2009 I'm 21... Are you officially a transsexual? Have you been medically declare as one? You have to go to specialist to decide if you are a transsexual. Not just anyone can pop up, and say give me a sex change. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyAnnCoons 7 Report post Posted September 21, 2009 I haven't been diagnosed by a specialist, no, but I see no reason why I wouldn't be transsexual. I can't really stand the idea of being male, and I can't imagine myself being male in the future. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tosharu 1 Report post Posted September 25, 2009 Ouch! That must REALLY suck.. I mean. I understand overbearing parents, and I can totally relate to all of what your saying. My mother is a christian, and I had one hell of a time battling with her for control over my life when I began getting older. ...as for the other stuff. I can also relate. But I won't go into detail. I'm generally viewed by everyone I know as "odd" and "strange" My advice to you, is that you could use a friend who can understand. and if your 21 you are technically legal age. I understand the fear of being "dis owned", or "abandoned". Damn those hardcore narrow minded christians... btw, when I say I understand, I really DO. Feel free to chat with me. anytime. I'll be around. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
